I know many who start the new year have resolutions that are considerably similar each and every year. They want to lose weight, make more money, vacation, move or find new relationships, but the fact of the matter is that without a change of mindset, they will always just be unaccomplished resolutions.
In many prisons across the nation, the have a concept that is called “Behavior Modification” It basically means changing one’s mindset and behavior so that they can lead to a crime free/addiction free lifestyle. They see this as rewarding good behavior(with certain privileges) and punishing bad behavior (taking things away). All in all the goal is to retrain the mind so that it sees negative behavior as causing more grief than positivity.
With that being said changing our minds to do the right (positive) things for our lives should be our daily goal, not just a resolution. If you want to lose weight change how you eat, what you eat, how much you exercise and reward yourself with non-food items and take away from yourself with non-food items if you do not stick to said behavior.
If you want to make more money, first change your mindset to save more, and attain assets such as life insurance, checking and savings accounts and college funds for your children or even yourself. Cut down on purchases, pay things off, cut bill costs, have a do it yourself mantra and invest in having a positive attitude towards money that does not have to do with spending ….and take away things when you have negative attitudes toward money.
Before you can vacation, take the time to appreciate your home and your mind. Read more, do things within your home that make you feel relaxed and rewarded, create a positive atmosphere without chaos and reject all negativity that aims to rob your peace.
If you want to move, make sure you do your homework on yourself and where you are now in life. Why are you moving, what behaviors do you need to change so that you do not carry them to a new place, how much will all of this cost, do you need to move or are you just keeping up with the joneses. Positivity can reveal a lot and negativity can stagnate you no matter where you go.
And last but most definitely not least are relationships. No matter what kind ask yourself the positives and negatives of starting anew. Have the courage to be honest with yourself, your current mate or with potential partners at all costs, and truly do a self evaluation as to if you can even handle a relationship right now, you will be surprised when weighing all aspects yourself, your life and others, that what you find may not coincide with what you want at the moment.
Creation…….I am not saying that any of this is easy to do, in fact, I am saying the opposite it is completely hard. The saying you can’t teach a dog new tricks is kinda true. Some of us are unwilling to change, or we change briefly and go right back to our negative behaviors and expect things to be better. Do not trap yourself into insanity, do not sabotage yourself by challenging what you know is true…Maya Angelou said it best ” If you know better, do better” and if you are unwilling to totally change your mindset…then expect your resolutions to always be just that.
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1.the alteration of behavioral patterns through the use of such learning techniques as biofeedback and positive or negative reinforcement.